Tips to Gain Freedom From Anger

Anger is an emotional state that may range in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage. Anger has physical effects including raising the heart rate and blood pressure and the levels of adrenaline.

Unwillingness to accept our mistakes and those of others, rigid and non-compromising behavior, inability to accept failure and undue expectation of success in whatever we do are some of the reasons arousing anger.

Anger, the Destroyer

Anger comes like a hurricane and leaves behind a trail of destruction in its wake. It makes us lose control and affects adversely our lives, our jobs, relationships, and our capacity to act rationally and makes us violent and aggressive. We lose all freedom of choice. Life coaches and business coaches recognise that one of the biggest obstacles to personal and career success is anger.

Perhaps the biggest all around damage that anger causes is in our relationships. It takes years to build a relationship of mutual affection and trust but it can be destroyed irreversibly in a moments anger leaving a void in our personal or social life and affecting our happiness.

When we are angry we are unable to think or analyze information rationally and take wrong decisions which we regret later.

The anger that is not expressed burns in the subsurface within our mind, gaining strength till it violently explodes.

Tips to Control Anger

Life coaching and business coaching institutes and books deal with people and aid them to see life as it is and find their way to success in life and business.

Choose to be Free

Controlling your anger is a choice you can make rather than being controlled by it. If you actually determine to free yourself from the clutches of anger, you can very well do it with the help of a few techniques, a change in attitude and sheer will power.

Recognise Anger Activators

Many times we get angry but we don’t know what triggered it or why we were angry. Life coaches recommend examining anger inducing patterns and to note as and when we observe them.

Avoid Assumptions and Negativity, Forgive

Mere perceptions of the injustices done to us make us live in negatives. We get angry at petty matters when we don’t even know the reason behind the actions. The habit of forgiving others’ mistake is an important tool in anger management.

Power of Empathy

Empathy is a powerful tool of anger management. When we empathise with others we learn to respect them and try to see the human being in them.

Respond Instead of React

Neuro linguistic programming techniques place importance in spacing between stimulus and response. Instead of reacting automatically in reflex to an action by others we may choose to create a gap in our actions by stress releasing techniques like meeting friends, listening to music or whatever else that eases us.

Accept What You Cannot Change

We do not have solutions to all the problems that we or people that we care for, face. We must accept the things we cannot change and learn the virtue of patience. Getting angry in matters where we are helpless negates our own self only.

These tips, it is hoped, will go a long way in helping you to get freedom from anger by better anger management and pave the way for self confidence and happiness in your life and career. However, in case these tips and your own sincere efforts to manage your anger do not bring results, it may be advisable to seek professional help by consulting a life coach or anger management specialists who may have a strong background in psychology.

All the best,

Natalie Dee

London Life Coach and Business Coach


Natalie Dee, London Life Coach works in the area of lifestyle management as a London life coach, using life coaching with confidence coaching and NLP both in London and throughout the UK to improve levels of self-confidence as well as relationships, personal health, finance and career. Life coaching London, UK and worldwide available.

Natalie Dee is also the co-author of an ebook on self confidence. This book is full of useful information, stories and exercises to improve self confidence, the key factor for many people to achieve greater happiness and success.

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